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[ # ] And God said… “choose the Cocoa Puffs… with soy milk”
Posted by Eric Stillman on July 28th, 2009 under Discipleship, NewLifePrint This Post  Print This Post

Somewhere in this great land of ours, there stands a man who has yet to leave his closet.  He is a very spiritual man, but he is not in the closet because he has come to spend time with the Lord in prayer.  No – he went in to get a shirt to wear that day.  However, after a couple of hours he is still in his closet, because he has been waiting on God to clarify whether he should choose the navy and gray striped button down or the green polo shirt.

And somewhere else today, there is a woman sitting paralyzed at her kitchen table as the rest of the world hurries off to work or school.  She stares back and forth between two boxes of cereal, unsure of whether God would have her eat Fruity Pebbles or Count Chocula this morning. 

Does this sound silly to you?

Then what about this:  somewhere, there is a man who has not taken a steady job to support his family, because he is still waiting for God to clearly tell him which career path he should take.

And somewhere else, there is a woman who is staying home on Sundays because she has not heard God’s voice telling her which of the many churches she has visited is the one her family should be attending. 

And finally, there is a woman somewhere who has been waiting for three years for her boyfriend to propose to her, but he claims that he has yet to do it because he hasn’t felt a clear direction from God yet.  And now she’s wondering whether her frustration is a sign from God that she needs to break off the relationship and find someone a little less “spiritual” and a little more decisive.

The will of God.  For those who love God and desperately want to follow Him, the will of God can be a scary thing.  After all, is there some path that God has for me, that requires me seeking Him every step of the way?  And if I step off this path even slightly – like by choosing the green polo instead of the striped shirt – am I forever out of His will?  Or worse – if I choose the wrong college, or the wrong husband, or the wrong job, am I doomed to settle for second best in life? 

Or is there even such a thing as the wrong college, the wrong husband, the wrong job?  Is it just all predetermined by the Lord, so that whatever I choose was what He wanted for me all along?

We’ve been looking at the book of Proverbs this summer, a book that is all about wisdom, and becoming a person who is able to make wise choices.  If we are going to make wise choices, we need to know what the Bible means when it talks about God’s will.  Most importantly, we need to know whether or not God has a specific will for our individual lives, a blueprint that we are supposed to be following.  Should we be seeking Him for every decision that we make?  And if we do, how will we know when He has spoken?  And how long do we wait when we feel like He hasn’t spoken definitively?  Does God really care whether I eat Fruity Pebbles or Count Chocula in the morning?  Does he care who I marry?  And how do we know which decisions He really cares about?

This Sunday, we’ll be looking at what Proverbs has to say about God’s will and decision making.  I have no doubt that many of you are facing important decisions in your life, and are looking to God for wisdom so that you can make a good choice.  This Sunday, I hope to bring some clarity from Proverbs to what it means to seek and follow God’s will for our lives. 

To man belong the plans of the heart, but from the LORD comes the reply of the tongue.  2 All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the LORD.  3 Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.  4 The LORD works out everything for his own ends– even the wicked for a day of disaster. (Proverbs 16:1-4)


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[ # 19860 ] Comment from Robin [July 31, 2009, 9:05 am]

Hey Eric, You said:
“And somewhere else, there is a woman who is staying home on Sundays because she has not heard God’s voice telling her which of the many churches she has visited is the one her family should be attending. “

Ouch!… But that statement does fit me pretty well, as I have explored a number of different Churches this Summer and am still undecided. My problem is not so much, waiting for God to lead me (or lead me back) to one Church specifically, but that I find them all so interesting. For me there are just too many choices… Online, Grace based, Emergent, Traditional(well ok prob not that) Charismatic, Fundie etc etc etc. even Catholic! I feel the same degree of angst at the grocery store when I picking out toothpaste, as I’m easily over whelmed, when presented with all those colorful little boxes, much like your cereal lady. In the spirit of transparency, I will confess it’s always, Peanut Butter Puffins and Lite Vanilla Soy Milk for me ;-) and Trader Joes Natural toothpaste with Fluoride.

This process has been both an beautiful and agonizing journey but the down side has been loss of a real life community to worship with on a consistent basis and all that it offers and I miss that. I very grateful to the members of New Life who have stayed connected with me during this time. You guys rock!

What I really need help with, is that I feel the presence of God everywhere, so I have not been able to discern what His will is. Honestly, I don’t feel or hear Him more in one place than the other, except maybe, outside in the Woods when I’m walking. Sadly, there is no “Church that Meets in the Woods” around here(or anywhere I suppose) so it limits me to man made structures, which always feel so separate from Him and His beautiful creation.

I know I’m rambling but I can’t help thinking of a Christian friend who answers every request with, “Sister I’ll have to pray on it.” I often found it to be an easy way out when he dose not want to do something and doesn’t have the guts to say no to my face. So, I can see where praying for every little thing can be a cop out but the other hand how do we know which things are important to God and His will for us? Maybe when I pick out my cereal, I’ll meet someone at that exact spot in the cereal aisle who needs to talk and the end result will be that they accept the Lord? This actually happened to me recently at CVS…Praise God!

Anyway, awesome blog with lots of interesting questions. I recently did a study on Proverbs but found the lack of a narrative to be sort of distracting. It just seemed like a string of “words of wisdom” without context, one after the other. I’ll be interested to see how you approach it and will definitely check it out. Take care and God Bless you and your beautiful family.

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[ # 19862 ] Comment from Eric Stillman [July 31, 2009, 9:13 am]

thanks for sharing your experiences, Robin… it is hard for me not to get overwhelmed just even mentioning the subject of God’s will – the questions seem to far outweigh the answers. I may just get up there on Sunday and say “I don’t know” and sit down. Or I may speak for 8 hours and say too much. So… pray for me as I try to find the happy medium, and I’ll pray for you as you continue to walk in your relationship with God.

[ # 20376 ] Comment from Danelle [August 23, 2009, 6:58 pm]

“This is the way; walk in it” is such a helpful/ not helpful verse. I always want to say, “WHICH way?!” I wish it could be easier to “figure things out.” But “whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it as unto the Lord.” This makes me think that God lets us freely choose whatever we want to do, so long as it doesn’t go contrary to scripture. (Marrying a non-believer, for example, is not the right way.) God does give clear direction about some things.
My problem is figuring out what is the BEST way! I hope that I am always seeking God’s best for my life, but admittedly, there have been times I wanted to do my own way. Robin seems to be seeking the right church. If God is meeting her at any of them, great! But it sounds like she wants to choose the “best” one. Maybe she should ask which one needs her the most?
I’ll never forget what my first IVCF staff worker said about finding a spouse. So many people are concerned about finding “the one.” Their “destiny.” He said he didn’t know if she was “the one” until he was standing at the altar saying his vows. Then, after he promised to love her, cherish her, care for her, etc. he finally knew that she was “the one.”
The will of God is to obey his word, choose for ourselves and do it all for His glory. Now isn’t that an easy answer? So clear! ;)

[ # 20451 ] Comment from Robin [August 27, 2009, 9:10 am]

“Robin seems to be seeking the right church. If God is meeting her at any of them, great! But it sounds like she wants to choose the “best” one. Maybe she should ask which one needs her the most?”

Umm… I never said i was looking for the” best” one. I wouldn’t begin to know what the best church was and I suspect it does not exist here on Earth anyway.

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